Dating a girl 10 years younger than you
on a date, because I actually broke every dating rule out there, and invited him over to my house to watch a football game and share dinner.Also note that this was not because I had some notion that we would end up together long-term, but rather because I was embarrassed to be seen in public with him because of our age difference. At the time, I thought that people would judge us and stare, or even worse, someone might mistake him for my son.We've had to ask if it's worth listening to other people’s opinions to potentially give up the best relationship we have both ever had.It amazes me that even as the world seems to be progressing and we're now openly embracing many life choices, most of us still aren't comfortable with age differences in relationships.Ultimately, my boyfriend and I have concluded that our love is too deep, intense, and “once-in-a-lifetime” to let it go.There are days when the weight of it all leaves me immobilized, sad, and unable to focus on anything.I know that this is something for them to process, and not for me to have to explain.Their fear over our choice to be together in actual fact has nothing to do with our loving relationship and us — it is their problem to solve.3. In times when I ask if it is all worth it, I look at him and know that I have found the person I do not want to live without.
Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.
So, how do I cope when the judgments become overwhelming?
I have learned a few things to help me get by, and to remind me that our love is worth fighting for:1.
Moreover, I often want to hide away — to avoid family functions, social outings, and not have to face people eye to eye.
But I know that hiding, crying and shouting does no good; I must show up as myself, courageously and yet graciously, and be the best person I can be.